In this episode, Dr. Stacy sits down with marriage coach Lee Baucom to explore why relationships quietly stall, how desire fades over time, and why communication alone isn’t the solution.
Lee breaks down the ‘pause button’ phenomenon, the three levels of connection, and how one partner can create meaningful change through systems, habits, and personal empowerment—without manipulation.
What You’ll Learn:
- Why marriages pause long before they break
- How habits and systems shape intimacy and desire
- The three levels of connection and why they matter
- Why communication isn’t the core issue in marriage
- How one person can influence real change
Guest Bio & Links
Lee Baucom is a Ph.D.-level trained therapist turned marriage coach with over 35 years of experience helping individuals transform struggling marriages—even when only one partner is willing to take action.
He is the creator of the Save the Marriage System, author of seven books including Save the Marriage and How to Save Your Marriage in 3 Simple Steps, and the founder of the Unpause App, a daily reconnection tool designed to help couples rebuild connection, desire, and intimacy through intentional systems and habits.
Lee is also the host of relationship-focused podcasts with millions of downloads worldwide and is happily married with two adult children.
Website: https://savethemarriage.store
Unpause App: http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com
Email: Lee.SaveTheMarriage@gmail.com
Host Bio — Dr. Stacy Friedman
Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project — on a mission to make midlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy — without apology.
She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue.
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