What happens when pornography, escorts, or compulsive sexual behavior become impossible to stop? This week, clinical sexologist and sex coach Dr. Stacy sits down with licensed psychotherapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional Scott Stolarick — 33 years of clinical experience and 26 years specifically working with sex addiction and trauma — for a sexologist talk that is honest, compassionate, and judgment-free about what’s really going on beneath the surface of sexual compulsivity.
In this episode:
- Why sex addiction isn’t in the DSM — and why that doesn’t mean it’s not real
- How unresolved childhood trauma quietly becomes the engine behind addictive sexual behavior
- What EMDR therapy is, how it works, and why Scott’s informed-consent-first approach changes everything
- Why poor sex education and accidental exposure to sexual content as a child can shape adult behavior in powerful ways
- The critical difference between intimacy and sex — and why confusing the two keeps people stuck
- What partners of people with sex addiction need to hear right now
Guest Bio & Links
Meet Scott Stolarick — the psychotherapist who doesn’t flinch. After 33 years of doing some of the most courageous clinical work in Illinois, Scott has seen it all — and he’s still here, still helping, and still dedicated to getting to the real story underneath the behavior.
Scott is a licensed, trauma-informed psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, experienced clinical supervisor, and the owner of Mosaic Pathway Counseling in Gurnee, Illinois. He holds Management and Leadership Certifications from the University of Notre Dame and Cornell University, and he has spent 26 years working specifically with sex offenders, sex addiction, and trauma survivors.
His approach is warm, deeply informed, and rooted in the belief that the behavior is never the whole story. There’s always something underneath — and that’s exactly where he does his best work.
🌐 Website: www.mosaicpathwaycounseling.org
📧 Email: scott@mosaicpathwaycounseling.org
📞 Phone: (224) 214-3944
Host Bio — Dr. Stacy Friedman
Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project — on a mission to make midlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy — without apology.
She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue.
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