Sex-pert blog

#5 Read My Lips: A Complete Guide to the Vagina and Vulva by Debby Herbenick

I’ve been in a direct sales company related to women’s sexual health for 12 years and if there’s one thing I know, it’s that women simply do NOT know enough about their own bodies! You literally can’t go wrong with anything by Dr. Debby Herbenick but one of her most recent books Read My Lips – a complete Guide to the Vagina and Vulva covers everything in an easy straight-forward way and should be read by everyone who has one (or wants one).

#6 The Kinky Vanilla Love Project by Lord Coltrane

“An affair can be one of the most painful, confusing, and humiliating experiences ever! It can bring up our darkest and deepest fears – like, am I sexy and lovable enough? By exploring the variety of roles we play in life and love, you can learn how to get the deep, profound, and super sexy intimacy that you deserve.

The Kinky Vanilla Love Project is an intimate exposé of Lord Coltrane’s provocative and profound experiment of becoming thirty different women in thirty days, which transformed a heartbreak due to infidelity into a juicy love affair with her husband, in and out of the bedroom. Now, Lord Coltrane shares with you the ultimate guide to:

• Learn how to have a juicy love affair with your partner
• Unleash your sexy, lovable, and multidimensional self
• Discover how roleplay can heal betrayal and ignite more passion in your relationship
• Take the monotony out of monogamy
• Fall madly in love again with your partner and with yourself
• Ignite your feminine powers and know your soul

For readers that want to heal the many wounds of betrayal, transform their marriage, and reinvent the way they love and make love, the The Kinky Vanilla Love Project is the perfect book for them.”

#7 Confessions & Lessons of a Sexpert by Dr. Stacy Friedman

This book helps individuals and couples learn to experience love for themselves, to be educated about sexuality and sexual health, and to better their relationships in regards to intimacy and sexuality. It is a lighthearted, easy read that can jumpstart the libido and share ideas where you can get the most out of your sexual experiences.

#8 Coping With Premature Ejaculation by Barry McCarthy

As a lifelong premature ejaculator and founder of a website on premature ejaculation, I’ve read a lot of book on the subject. This one is the best I have found. Metz and McCarthy are experienced clinicians that have helped countless couples who struggled with premature ejaculation. They go straight to the point in a positive, action-oriented and non-judgmental way. The book describes some exercises that you can do with your partner to improve your ejaculatory control. More importantly, it gives tips on how to manage the situation and how to improve your communication with your partner.

#9 His Porn, Her Pain by Klein Ph.D., Marty

I recommend His Porn Her Pain, by psychologist Marty Klein as an anecdote to the fake panic surrounding sex films to get to the real issues underlying your concerns. Dr. Klein has seen patients for decades and offers many cases demonstrating how to help couples, our yourself, work through concerns mis-attributed to sex films in romantic relationships.

#10 Your Pelvic Health Book by Jen Torborg

Your Pelvic Health Book is a comprehensive book to help guide you in understanding and improving your pelvic floor, bladder, bowel, and sexual health. A holistic view of your sexual health and pelvic health tips, it is a great book for women of all ages and gives specific tips for vaginal health depending on age and stage in life.

#11 It’s Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris

“The one book I recommend to all my patients who ask about sexual health is “It’s Perfectly Normal: A Book about Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health” by Robie H. Harris.

I find it especially great that the book teaches body positivity and sexually responsible behavior. It is very helpful to younger readers and their parents, and it provides answers to all sorts of questions. It includes answers regarding birth control, STDs, STIs, and so much more.”

#12 Partner Betrayal Trauma Book by Douglas Weiss

The book uncovers the emotional trauma that can negatively impact a relationship when a partner cheats. Broken trust can take a toll on the relationship, but it doesn’t mean all is lost. Dr. Weiss stresses the importance of picking up the pieces, analyzing both partner’s feelings and working towards a positive change.

#13 Living An Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure by Xanet Pailet

Living An Orgasmic Life is written for anyone who finds sex challenging or feels uncomfortable with their sex life. Women who are alienated from their erotic side due to sexual abuse or trauma will find healing balm in these pages. Women who can’t surrender into pleasure, can’t sustain intimacy, or want to reclaim and feel empowered in their sexuality will greatly benefit from this book. In Living An Orgasmic Life, Xanet Pailet explores the many reasons that cause women to disconnect from their sexuality including: shame, body image issues, sexual abuse and trauma, physical wounding, and fears of intimacy. She teaches practical advice and tools to help women awaken to their sexuality in a healthy way and reclaim their libido.

#14 Sex After Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved by Joan Price

Sex is complicated at the best of times – but when we’re overcome by grief, it’s especially mysterious and confusing. Sex after Grief is the first book to address sex and grief together and treat sex as a normal, positive, life-affirming part of emerging from such a difficult time. Joan Price, the top expert on senior sex, draws on her own experiences as a widow since 2008, when she lost the love of her life to cancer. She shares her raw grief journey, sexual reawakening (and the many stumbles along the way), and attempts to dip back into dating, along with excellent advice on handling each step.

As Price says, there’s no right or wrong method or timeline for bringing our sexuality back into our lives, whether it’s with our own hands, a friend with benefits, a hook-up, a new companion, or any combination. Her book will help you with inspiring tales of how different people brought sex back into their lives after the loss of their spouse or partner; guidelines for dating again and getting sexual with a new person; reasons that solo sex is healthy and can be the path to feeling sexual again; advice from therapists, grief counselors, and sex coaches; self-help takeaways for creating an action plan; and more.

#15 Sex Rules!: Astonishing Sexual Practices and Gender Roles Around the World by Janice Zarro Brodman